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Wednesday September 5, 2007
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Here is the clip of the great cantor Yossele Rosenblatt I played at the opening of this week's show.
Roughly translated:
The Lord, Who remembered us, will bless; He will bless the house of Israel; He will bless the house of Aaron. He will bless those who fear the Lord, the small together with the great. May the Lord add upon you, upon you and upon your children. Blessed are you to the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth. The heavens are heavens of the Lord, but the earth He gave to the children of men. Neither will the dead praise God, nor all those who descend to the grave. But we shall bless God from now and forever, Hallelukah.
Wednesday August 22, 2007
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As promised last week we discussed guilt:
In general there are three kinds of shame:
1. Humiliation
2. Violation
3. Guilt
Humiliation is when I do something that humiliates me. For example, I’m walking in a crowd and I slip on a banana peal and land flat on my back. I didn’t do anything wrong, I wasn’t being bad. It’s just embarrassing. I'm humbled.
Violation is when for example, I’m at a dinner party and I’m looking for kitchen or the restroom and I accidentally walk into the host’s bedroom. The feeling of embarrassment there is from the knowledge that I’ve overstepped my boundaries. I'm ashamed of my violation.Then there is the feeling of guilt. Guilt is not just shame of having violated.
The Torah and Chasidism use the term “guilt” specifically where there is a damaged relationship. Guilt is the feeling that the relationship I had with you is damaged. I am no longer as desirable to you as I once was.
Good Guilt vs. Bad Guilt
This helps us differentiate between healthy guilt and unhealthy guilt.
Healthy guilt, guilt that will heal, is when I feel that I’ve damaged a relationship, that I’ve hurt another, that I’m no longer as lovable as I was before.
Unhealthy guilt is where I don’t which relationship I’ve hurt or I don’t feel that I’ve hurt any relationships, I’m just feeling guilty. That’s unhealthy, pointless guilt.
In fact, if the person I hurt, in their great kindness can find it in their heart to forgive me and to love me as before but I still feel guilty that’s also unhealthy guilt, in that case I’m just being glutton for guilt. The feelings of healthy guilt should be put to rest by forgiveness.
(Herein lays the answer to people who are feeling (unhealthy) guilt in cases where there was no violation or transgression on their part, for example in the case of abuse victims. These people don’t need to hear, “It’s not your fault.” That’s not going to cure the guilt.
What they need to hear is, “It doesn’t change how I feel about you.” Or better yet, “I can love you just as much!” This is more believable than “it doesn’t matter”. It does matter but my love for you is bigger than being damaged by what happened.)
Forgiving Shame
This idea, of three kinds of shame, is reflected in the prayers of Yom Kippur. On Yom Kippur we ask G-d for forgiveness. Interestingly, though, there are three words for forgiveness, M’chilah, Slichah and Kaparah. Now we say these words over and over again and again throughout the Yom Kippur prayers but they mean the same thing.By now you might have surmised that each of these three types of forgiveness forgives another type of shame.
M’chilah is what we generally know as forgiveness. In other words, “I feel like a fool because last year I promised to control myself and I failed. I’m humbled, humiliated and I’m asking you to forgive my stupidity.”
Slicha means to overlook the sin. In other words, “I know I’ve overstepped my boundaries and I’m no longer as deserving of your love as before but I ask you to forgive me by overlooking that violation and bringing me close to you anyway.”
Kapara is cleansing. There is a violation which is damaging but we’re going to do away with that damage and become as close as before. In fact we’ll be even closer than before because post-violation has to be a stronger bond than pre-violation.
Incidentally it’s the Kapara which is the most fundamental, which is where Yom Kippur gets its name, Kippur being from the same word as Kapara. It’s a day of cleansing, of mending a violated relationship.
Those were the thoughts I shared on the air, I thought that I had lost my audience but Charlie Freedman (host of the happy hour show on KSCO) called and said, “The ideas you’ve spun out are like a flower that keeps opening and opening, and we keep listening and seeing more and more. Your explanation of the difference between guilt and humiliation I found tremendously elucidating and the idea of healthy vs. unhealthy guilt very valuable.” Thanks Charlie.
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Wednesday August 15, 2007
We should now be evaluating our relationship with our Maker.
Mending this relationship used to consist of roving preachers painting pictures of hell for the people warning that this was their only hope if they don’t repent.
The Baal Shem Tov and Chassidus taught us is that if you ever find yourself in a spiritual dilemma you can get your answer by comparing your relationship with G-d to an ordinary marriage. Ask yourself, “Would doing this result in a healthy marriage or not?”
Repenting or returning to G-d means returning to a committed relationship. Last year we committed to give G-d our undivided attention. During the year we got distracted by all the things listed in Oprah's list of twenty questions (see below)! Now it’s time to recommit, to begin to love again, to respect again and to focus on what He needs.
A man once read in a magazine that a good husband brings his wife flowers everyday. So he bought flowers on his way home. His wife thanked him but gently explained that she doesn’t like flowers. He said he understood and that it was OK. But the next day he came home with flowers and again the next despite his wife’s protests. This man was trying so hard to be a “Good Husband” but in realty he wasn’t being a husband at all. He was giving her what HE felt she would want not what she actually needed.So if you think going to Shul and beating your chest is just because you feel you are lacking and this will make you a better person, don’t even bother. That’s not what being devoted is, that’s just being selfish, self centered.
I gave an example of why our society is going ... in a hand basket. It’s this article by Oprah Winfrey, “Questions to ask before you get married.”
It’s not until the 14th question that she talks about family at all. No, it’s all about money! Here you have a well-respected celebrity telling us to treat dating for marriage like job interviews…
Then we discussed how to get our minds to control or “rule over” our emotions.
Michael called and said, “I’ve been giving G-d what I thought He would want, you’ve uprooted that notion for me. You’ve given me peace.”
Join us next Wednesday at 7pm for “Guilt: a healthy reflex.”
Until then,
Shalom
Wednesday August 8, 2007
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You hear all the time about suicide bombers sacrificing their lives to demonstrate their devotion to Islam. Do they deserve respect for dying for their beliefs? If not why do those Jews who gave up their lives under Stalin or the Inquisition? How do you distinguish between genuine, holy sacrifice and this?
We answered that question today.
Sacrifice must mean giving up something that is precious and of great value to me for something greater. If I trade in my 1998 Buick and for the newest model that is not self-sacrifice, that’s called trading up. The same applies if I believe there is any benefit for me as a result of my actions. If I believe that my sacrifice will bring reward or will enrich my life that’s not self-sacrifice, that’s self-interest.
So for a Muslim to say, “I’ll fly a big airplane into a tall building to kill those who aren’t Muslim and then I’ll go to paradise” that’s not sacrifice because there is a reward, he is simply “trading up” for a better life.What then is genuine sacrifice?
Life is defined by its purpose. If in order to continue living I have to violate the very purpose for which I live, than I sacrifice life for its own purpose, not for my own comfort. The purpose of the life I am living is to sanctify the Creator’s reputation, to give G-d a voice in this world and to make this world a holier place. If I have to violate any of those in order to continue living then I give up my most precious commodity, life, for the greater purpose, the reason I was created.
When we die do we go to a better place? The answer is no. Heaven is a more comfortable place, an easier existence, a place without pain but Heaven is not better than Earth in terms of good vs. bad. In fact in terms of good vs. bad Earth is far better for as long as we are on Earth our existence has purpose (the best thing you can give a person). Once we die and go to Heaven we’ve gone away from that purpose.
So to say that heaven is better than Earth is to put G-d in our service, placing our comfort over His purpose. Thus no person who claims to be a servant of G-d can say “Heaven is a better place” for that would completely wipe away his sense of servitude.
You see, this notion has turned religion sour. I’m not pointing at any specific religion because I think we’re all guilty of this. All of the heinous crimes perpetrated in the name of religion were founded on this notion that when heaven is better than earth. We must do with this notion and realize that the very best place for a person to be is here on Earth where we can be of service to our fellow man and to G-d.
Benny’s musical clip of the week was Al Kol Eileh by Yoram Gaon. To sample or purchase Yoram’s album click here.
Wednesday July 11, 2007
Former First Lady, “Lady Bird” Johnson has passed away.
Chassidus teaches everything we encounter in life is meant to be a lesson to us.
Why do we pay so much attention when famous people die? What is it about the former first lady that draws so much attention?
Mark called in and suggested that Lady Bird’s greatness (besides putting up with President Johnson for so many years) was that she was a compassionate, beautiful person who exuded such kindness. But what catches our attention when she dies is that it makes you ask, “Where was I when she was First Lady”?
In torah and in Jewish tradition a lot of attention is paid to the passing of great people because it is at the end of life when we realize that all of life eventually boils down to what’s left of us after we’re gone.
Every time someone great passes away we should take to heart that what’s going to be left of us is only the impact we’ve had on the world, the good that we’ve done. Because it doesn’t matter how much money we’ve made, after all you can’t take it with you. All that’s left is your legacy.
Lady Bird’s legacy is, as Mark told us, was kindness. We must all get in on the performance of kindness because when our time comes that’s all that will be left of us.
We went on to discuss the Torah’s opinion of the pet- spay neuter bill.
Judaism is notorious for not proselytizing at all. The reason is that we have a profound respect for every creation. Jewish tradition maintains that every creation was created by G-d exactly the way He wants it to be, in exactly the right country, family and religion. We don’t like to tamper with that.
But besides the fact that spaying or neutering an animal is tampering with G-d’s creation there is also a G-d given universal law against being cruel to animals. Whether that includes spaying in any situation is debatable but certainly we cannot spay or neuter animals just on whim! This was our conclusion on the show.
We had some special guests, the counselors of our Gan Israel Day Camp.
Benny presented “My G-d, My G-d” by Yossele Rosenblatt. Wow! To sample or purchase Yossele Rosenblatt music click here.
Well, we’ll see ya’ next week,
Till then, Shalom!
Wednesday July 4, 2007
There is no doubt in my mind that US is the greatest blessing that G-d has granted this world. Especially for the Jewish people who’ve suffered tzaros in every place we’ve lived. So to have a country like the US where every man is free to serve G-d in his own way is an incredible gift.
However, the question is, are we as Americans giving due credit where credit is due? Is it appropriate to separate G-d from state?Everybody talks about the separation of church and state which is fine. You have to separate church and state because no single faith should rule a population of so many diverse faiths. But you can’t separate G-d from state. (You can’t separate G-d from anything!) We must recognize and give thanks and credit to the Creator of this country.
We must also continue to focus on that Creator and remember that if He created this world, which is us, it most surely must have been for Creator’s purpose not for the created.
This purpose preceded the world’s creation. If the purpose did not precede us, if we were created and then a purpose was tacked on, that would leave us with the overwhelming question of why did we happen in the first place? Nay! As I said our G-d given purpose preceded us and we must constantly focus on His purpose.
So if G-d created a US in the time and place that He did it must fit into the original plan of the Creator. So the question now becomes why does the US exist, what role does it play in (what Tevye from Fiddler on the Roof calls the) “Vast Eternal Plan”?
The notion that the US is an evil, terrible country is ludicrous. Truly, we’re not perfect but compared to what happened under other rulers one must be crazy not to appreciate what we have. One poignant example:
Do you think the yellow star that Jews had to wear under German rule was an original Nazi idea? It wasn’t at all. It dates way, way back. In 1555 Pope Paul IV made Jews wear yellow hats. In 1321 Henry II of Castile decreed that Jews wear yellow badges. Sometime around 1315 Jews in Granada were forced to wear the yellow badge. Around 1090 under the Muslim Abaset Caliph all “non-believers” were forced to wear yellow hats, not only the Jews. The Caliph also forbade all non-believing women from wearing matching shoes. You see, the Nazis weren’t original at all. So many governments engaged in this insanity called oppression for the sake of oppression.Just no drive this point home, when was the last time a people were made to wear an identifying mark to express that they were of a different faith. The answer: in 2001 under Taliban rule in Afghanistan the Hindu had to where yellow badges!
Regimes throughout history have forced segregation so for us not to appreciate it and be grateful every minute of our live for is just crazy. We owe a tromendous debt of gratitude to the Founding Fathers, the man and women of the military, our ancestors who got us here and, of course to G-d.
What about America's beating up on "weaker" coutries? There has always been war. We try to avoid it but this is the sad reality, the unfortunate situation of our world. Going to war is not a sign of an evil empire. The Prophets promised a world without war and we strive for a world at peace but until then we must never, ever forget how fortunate we are to live in the United States of America.
Benny’s Music Clip of the Week was Adon Olam from Avraham Fried’s Our Father, Our King. To purchase the album click here.
Till next week,
Shalom!
Wednesday June 27, 2007
Today we took a look at current events with the help of the wisdom of our Sages.
One of the major news outlets announced:
Israeli intellectual Amos Oz was awarded the annual Prince of Asturias prize for literature Wednesday in recognition of his works denouncing extremism and advocating Israeli-Palestinian peace.
The jury meeting in the northern city of Oviedo said Oz had "contributed to turning the Hebrew language into a brilliant literary instrument...
Does this not bother you? Don't they realize that the #1 Best seller of all time - known as the Bible, was written in Hebrew...
Back to the quote:
"...while revealing certain truths about the most pressing and universal realities of our times, with as much attention to defending peace between different communities as denouncing all forms of extremism."
Mr. Oz denounces "all forms of extremism." So if I was extremely good or extremely kind does he denounce that? If I am extremely humble would he denounce that? Maimonides writes that everything must be taken in moderation with two exceptions, 1. the avoidance of anger 2. humility, you simply can't be too humble!
Back to the article...
"For 40 years now, I have been struggling for a historic compromise between Israel and Palestine, based on a two-state solution...," Oz said upon receiving word that he had received the award.
The problem with this is that the "two state solution" needs more definition because it isn't working. Right now we have a three state mess, where the Palestinians have split into two states.
This brings to mind a quote from the Ethics of Our Fathers: "One who says 'What's mine is yours and what's yours is mine' is an ignoramus. One who says 'Mine is mine and yours is yours' is average. He who says 'Mine is yours and yours is yours' is pious and he who says 'Mine is mine and yours is mine' is evil."
The one who says 'Mine is yours and yours is mine' is an ignoramus because you have to be able to recognize borders. Without borders you have chaos! Clear borders are an absolute must. Once we've defined what's mine and what's yours then, if I'm feeling generous, what's mine can also become yours.
I also have a general bone to pick with the media. The Mishnah says, "There are seven traits of a wise man... Concerning that which he has not heard he says, 'I haven't heard' and the opposite is a fool." If there is an entire subject being discussed but there is one detail that he is not familiar with the wise man say, "I am not adequately familiar with this entire subject."
The media these days, as soon as they hear a little bit about a subject assume that we know the whole subject and claim to be able to discuss it intelligently. How can these reporters claim to know well enough what's actually going on in Israel or in Iraq? you can't assume to know all the details necessary to make a proper judgment. Especially if you're going to condemn people based on the absence of information. This is the behavior of an ignoramus!
They really shold go back to just reporting.
There is one more Mishnah in that same chapter that we discussed. "Any love that is dependant on a condition, if that condition ceases the love ceases. But if it is not dependant on anything it will never cease."
If you hear what this Mishnah is saying it is revolutionary in its simplicity. What is that something that love shouldn't be dependant on? Looks? Cooking? Personality?
A thing can be anything including Love itself. All the dating websites scream, "Are you looking for love?" and that's such a silly notion because that love is dependant on something - the love itself. Love is not an end, it's a emotional tool or attitude with which we treat those who are important to us. If you go looking for someone to love, that person is going to end up suffering.
Benny's Musical Clip of the Week was Father Don' Cry by Avraham Fried. To purchase the album click here. We then introduced the "This Week in Jewish History" theme song whose lyrics you can see below.
I would love to see some feedback, please! Until next Wednesday at 7,
Shalom!
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"We've Got A Strong Desire"
The lyrics to our History segment theme song performed by Shlock Rock.
(I'm still looking for where one can buy this online.)
Adam, Eve, Abel, Cain,
Noah's Ark, Flood of Rain,
Terach, Idols, Haran dies, Abraham leaves home.
Sarah, Isaac, Brit Milah,
Angels visit, Akeida,
War of Kings, Salty Wife, Rescue in Sodom.
Yitzchok, Rivkah, Twins inside,
Jacob, Birthright, Isaac's Blind,
Stolen Blessing, Esav Cried, Angel's ladder to the sky.
Rachel's beauty, Yaakov's hitched,
Lavan, Leah, daughter switched,
Four Wives, twelve Tribes, Near Beit Lechem, Rachel Dies.
Chorus:
We've got a strong desire,
We are always yearning for the Torah's Learning.
We've got a strong desire,
We will stay united, never be divided.
Colored Coat, Brothers hate,
Sold to Egypt, Head of State,
Famine, grain, Goblet Test, Brothers Reunite.
New King, Jews are slaves,
Moshe's born, princess saves,
Yitro's daughters, burning bush, Aaron joins the fight.
Ten Plagues, Jews free,
Splitting of the Red Sea,
Amalek, Torah given, Golden Calf Jews Forgiven,
Korach, forty years, Balak, Bilaam, Pinchas spears.
Moshe Leaves, Jews Grieve, Joshua's the new chief.
Chorus
Jordan river, Jericho,
Walls fall, Shofar Blow,
Devorah, Shimshon, Shmuel, Saul,
David, Stone, Goliath Fall.
Solomon, Temple built,
Civil war, blood spilt,
Eliyahu, Elisha, Yishayahu, Yirmiyah.
Purim, Esther, Mordechai,
Beit Hamikdash second time,
Antiochus, bad decrees, Judah and the Maccabees.
Temple Two burnt down, Exile all around,
Shamai, Hillel, Beitar, Bar Kochva, Akiva's star.
Chorus
Mishna, Gemara, Karai,
Rav Yehuda Hanasi,
Rashi, Rabbeinu Tam, Baalei Tosfot, Rashbam.
Rambam, Sefer Mada, Inquisition, Torquemada,
Baal Shem Tov, Kuzari, Vilna Gaon, Shabtai Zvi.
Maharal, Libelists,
Golem, Prague, Kabbalists,
Chmelnitzky, Shtetl life,
Haskalah, Internal Strife.
Chorus
Hitler, Auschwitz, Holocaust,
Krystalnacht, Six Million lost,
Herzl, Balfour, Promised Land,
U.N.Vote, Partition Plan.
Nuremberg, Ben Gurion,
Six Day War, Moshe Dayan,
Golda Meir, Wall Reclaimed,
Yom Kippur, Entebbe Raid.
Olympics, Munich, Athletes shot,
Carter, Begin and Sadat,
Iron Curtain, Lebanon,
Shcharansky Free, Rav Moshe Gone,
Jews from Ethiopia,
Glasnost, Russian Yeshiva,
Intifada, we won't bow,
WE WANT MOSHIACH NOW!!!!



